Self Quest Thursday: Thinking back, what did you really need as a teenager?

 
 

Over the last two weeks, I offered you questions that help you clarify how you want to feel in your life and what you wish you could let go of. In today’s Self Quest Thursday, I want to invite you to look back a little and reflect with me.

The truth is that we are a product of our experiences and even though, we move on and outgrow certain stages of our life, they still influence us.

Today, I want to take you back to the (often tumultuous) years of yourself as a teenager.

More specifically, I want you to reflect, think and feel back into your SELF at 13, 14, 15, 16, 17 years old and ask yourself:

What did I really need a teenager?

Perhaps you…

→ were overshadowed with insecurities and awkwardness and wish you had had more validation, a guiding hand who explored this confusing stage with you.

→ longed for better friends and wish you’d pay more attention to the kind, authentic kids instead of the ones who were deemed popular.

→ wished that you had a hobby that really captured your interest

→ would have loved to have more emotional support and even dialogue about what’s going on hormonally and how to support yourself

→ needed more freedom and open space to explore and make your own mistakes

→ or maybe, you needed more structure and clearer boundaries because you yourself felt so out of control

AND THEN, ASK YOURSELF:

Have I created a life where I am receiving these things now?

For instance, do you now have the kind of relationships now that you needed when you were young? Do you give yourself the freedom and space to explore and make mistakes, or the clear structure and boundaries so you can thrive?

Your teenage years may seem long ago (they do for me;)), but you’re still that same girl -evolved and matured, but you are still you.

SO, looking at what YOU really needed as a teenager, do you have that in your life now?

If yes, amazing. I’m so happy for you:)

If not, ask yourself if it is still relevant and something you’d like to have? If not, let it go. But if yes, let’s get to work. It’s never too late to give yourself –and create relationships that nurture– what you need in order to feel supported.

As I said in the last week’s posts, you can take this question and simply reflect on it on your own, you can use it as a journal prompt (very powerful ✍️), or you can go on a walk with friends and discuss it in a group (so fun & builds connection 👯‍♀️).

With love as always,

Caroline

 
Caroline Zwickson

Caroline Zwickson is a Life & Health Coach with a background in Counseling Psychology. She helps her clients discover their own authentic paths, so they can thrive in their own way.

http://www.carolinezwickson.com
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